Wish I knew this earlier

“The past is a place of reference, not a place of residence; the past is a place of learning, not a place of living.”

Roy T. Bennett

Although I haven’t ran the whole course of my life yet, there are some lessons I learnt pretty late. When we are young, we are filled with confidence and optimism about the future and believe that we can move past any challenges in life. However, we end up giving up the reins of our life to fate during the later stages in life. As we grow older, we realise that we could have channelised that high amount of confidence and optimism into something productive and fruitful that would help us be more in control of our life.

These are some lessons I’ve come accross either through internet or bitter experiences or analysing the life led by people around me. Although I wish I knew this earlier, I’m really glad that I’m aware of it now and have worked on it to improve the overall quality of my life.

  • Join a sport or participate in that extra curricular event :- I was a big time nerd and truly believed studies are the only thing that I should be doing as a student. I was horribly wrong. I realised the importance of fitness and communication much later in life. Learning a sport helps not just in developing strength and stamina but also becoming more disciplined, learning from our failures and facing challenges headstrong. We live in a very sheltered environment as far as school and college is concerned and have people around to help with our requirements. Once we are thrown into the real world, every new situation seems life threatening and we fail to blend in with the crowd. Learn to make new friends, talk to more people, learn about their experiences, participate in events that force you out of your comfort zone. That’s how you realise that every single person on this planet is dealing with their fear and insecurties and you learn to feel less intimidated by people, especially strangers.
  • Be financially independent : It’s very important to chase our dreams and passion and figure out the purpose of our existence. However, we also need to find a way to be financially independent along the process. Unless we have unlimited financial resources left to us by our ancestors, everyone needs to work for their survival in this world. Make sure you incorporate the golden habit of saving early on in your life, learn about financial planning, take advise from experts to grow your corpus, make financially sound decisons when it comes to material purchases, know your long and short term financial goals. Once you feel financially sound, you can take all the big decisions in life with more confidence.
  • Make meditation a part of daily routine : We all know the wonderful benefits of meditation however it can take a painfully long time for us to visibly see the changes in our life. Till that time, we are required to meditate cosistently without expecting any instant gratification. And that my friend, is an extremely difficult task. It’s better to think of it as a part of daily routine that we need to follow without fail like brushing our teeth or taking a bath. Yes, meditation is undoubtedly the best tool available within our control which can help in maintaining a sound mental health. And making it a daily routine is the best way to reap it’s rich rewards later on in life.
  • Everyday is equally important : Most of the days in my life are a waitlist for the special ones/the D days/an important day to look forward to. We feel happy on these special days and dread to get back to the “normal routine” to be followed on the other days. If we can learn to tweak this mindset, there will be a visible change in our happiness levels. The best way to do this is by maintaining a daily journal. It’s just a 5 minute daily practice that requires you to revisit your day and write down whatever made an impact on you that day. This small practice can help you be more grateful and pull your attention back to the present moment. Document your day, focus on making daily progress, make memories, click pictures, life certainly isn’t about those few special days, everday is equally special.

And that’s all I’ve learned and try to implement in my day to day life to feel at peace and more happy in general. Hope it helps you too!

The power of priortizing

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I always have a regret at the end of each day for not utilizing the day well enough. I’ve decided to live in the present and not concern myself with my past or future. This sure is a tough thing to do but with a concentrated effort and dedication anything is possible. If we focus on living in the present, every day becomes special and important. Earlier I used to live my life waiting for few special days and filling up the space in between by just existing and not living. I don’t wish to do that anymore. I want to live my life more with each passing day. I want to make every day of my life special than few momentous days.

To do that, I need to prioritize my days well. Every Friday I’m elated to spend the weekend doing everything that would make me happy. However, I end up spending half my day on the couch doing absolutely nothing. That’s not how I wish to spend the days of my life. One way to make sure I make everyday worthwhile is by prioritizing my tasks for each day. That way, I have something to look forward to each day. We were taught to prepare to do lists and timetables for our studies in school. I used to enjoy the process of making time tables, however, I’ve never been able to follow them throughout. I have a tendency to go overboard with my timetables and pack in a lot of tasks on a single day with the intention of being productive. No points in guessing that the excess tasks used to overwhelm me and I ended up procrastinating on all of them.

What I wish to do now is to make realistic to do lists. It’s okay if they have just 2/3 tasks for the day but I wish to jot them down and review them at the end of each day. This would ensure that I’m living my life rather than existing as I’ll have a written record of my life. I’ll try my level best to do this starting tomorrow, wish me luck!