Getting out of my comfort zone

It was my first day at my new job today. This place is everything I wanted my dream job to be like. Extremely knowledgeable people, great office environment, fixed timings, great brand, yet, I feel weird.

There is this intense feeling of discomfort that is plaguing my mind. I just can’t come to terms with the fact that opportunities lie outside the comfort zone. In my previous organisation, I knew everything and everyone, everything and everyone knew me. I didn’t like the people there nor the office timings, yet, I want to go back and hide myself there.

What is wrong? Why do I feel so uncomfortable at a place that feels so right! Well, that’s the cost to pay when you venture out of your comfort zone. The comfort zone is a place which protects you from any kind of fear. New places brings with it unknown situations, uncomfortable meetings, it tests your knowledge and your ability to deal with new surroundings. All this ain’t pretty. Especially, for an introvert like me. Introverts like to conserve as much energy as possible. They lose energy and hope as soon as they have to encounter a new situation.

It’s time to be more positive and embrace my reality. Living my life one day at a time might help. I either live in the past or find myself dreaming about the future. Present is never an option for me.

Embracing every moment of the present situation will help me recuperate and that’s what I am going to do. It was my decision to move out of the situation I was in and upgrade my life. Now, I need to be more mature and responsible about my decisions. Happiness is a continuous process. You cannot wait for it to find it’s way to you. Happiness sometimes requires effort. Your mind needs to free and clutter free in order to create a nurturing house for it to stay in for a long time.

While I go back to my reality, I urge you all to give the uncomfortable situation you are currently facing, another chance. Just remember, this feeling too shall pass. It is just an illusion created by your mind to protect you from prospective fearful situations. And believe me, you are stronger than that! So, fight the FEAR.!

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Thoughts to action!

How many times has it happened that you’ve been sitting on an idea or thought for a long time and never managed to accomplish it? Countless? Innumerous? I’ve done the same thing too. I’ve always had a huge “things to do” list on my mind which I’ve never managed to strike off within the estimated timeline. So, what goes wrong?

Well, there are two types of people in this world, namely :

  • Thinkers : As the name suggests, the thinkers are part of “day-dreaming” universe. They plan elaborate stuff with vivid details. All their thoughts are incredibly exhaustive with a timeline attached to it. Thinkers love to plan and spend a lot of time in designing the nitty gritty. However, they miss out the most important aspect of their plans – “Action”. Thinkers get so exhausted with planning the details that they are left with no motivation to convert their plans into action. Thinkers always find a lot of road blocks in their journey which stalls their progress.
  • Doers : These are the kind of people who have a string of accomplishments attached to their name. They always manage to kill procrastination and get a lot of stuff done within the same 24 hrs day. Doers come across as extremely focused and passionate individuals who can go to any lengths to achieve their goals. It feels like they have their entire life sorted. Doers manage to find quick solutions to any obstacles that may cross the path to their goals.

So what is it that special quality possessed by Doers that helps them get an edge over Thinkers? Why do Thinkers lag far behind Doers in accomplishing their dreams?

It’s the magic element called “Action
Both Thinkers and Doers are equally capable of completing the same task at hand, however Doers repeatedly emphasise on “actioning” their thoughts which provides them the edge in this race. Thinkers place the bets on their incredible planning skills and derive the same gratification level as if they have accomplished the task. Doers earn their sense of gratification after completing the task at hand.

I’m part of the “Thinkers” club slowly crawling my way to “Doers” universe by using a simple technique which helps me focus on the present task. Usually, I have a thought and within few seconds my brain starts churning up negative situations that deviate me from my initial thought and creates a roadblock. The longer I take to listen to my initial thought, higher is the number of obstacles I face in conquering it. Thus, I end up spending more time in the comfort zone which is the land of no return.

So the technique I use here is to follow the first thought I have. For example; you want to get up at 6 am in the morning, your alarm clock rings at 6 am – first thought “wake up”, within seconds your brain starts throwing overpowering notions such as “sleep for 5 more minutes”, “you slept late last night”, “you can wake up early tomorrow”. Thus, you end up following the massive outburst of negative thoughts and hit the snooze button. TASK UNACCOMPLISHED.

You need to follow the first thought i.e. “wake up” in the above scenario and act on it before your brains throws the negative influx of thoughts at you.

Try engraining this little change in your day to day tasks and notice the difference. This will help you to keep on increasing the number of accomplished tasks in your to-do list.

Welcome to the “Doers” club!

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Hello July!!

Have you ever created new year resolutions? And then break them miserably within the next one week? Well, I guess everyone’s new year resolutions suffers the same fate! I love planning and organising however, I just can’t seem to stick to my plans for the entire year. Maybe because I go overboard with my resolutions and have unending number of them to strike off.

After much deliberation (read as massive failures), I’ve decided to create monthly goal list at the beginning of each month. This would help me have a better hold over my goals and track their progress.

Here goes my list!!

READING LIST (Books I intend to read this month)

My favourite blogger James Clear has written a brilliant article on how to get more reading done by making a simple change to your reading habit. Just read 20 pages each day, that’s it! 20 pages for the month of July totals upto 620 pages. My reading list below adds upto 829 pages. I’ll have to get an extra 10 more pages done each day in order to clear the list below. Almost all of the books below are half read, I intend to finish them this month so that I can get a good grip on my book reading list for 2017!

  1. The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg (229/376 pages)
  2. Feel the fear and do it anyway by Susan Jeffers (196/251 pages)
  3. How to be a Bawse by Lilly Singh (58/311 pages)
  4. What I know for Sure by Oprah Winfrey (Unread  – 228 pages)
  5. What Katy Did by Susan Coolidge (Unread – 168 pages)

FITNESS

Everything written below is commonly accepted health protocols which no one follows. I intend to consciously follow these and engrain them in my brain.

  1. Drink water every hour (Follow the water alert reminder instead of snoozing it)
  2. Chew food well before swallowing (Instead of galloping through my food!)
  3. Indulge in at least 20 mins of any form of exercise each day

PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT

I strongly believe in doing something each day to create a better version of oneself than yesterday. Below goals will help me achieve just that!

  1. Join the 5am club (Okay, this is the most difficult part of my goal list but it’s something I really wish to achieve!)
  2. Increase my vocabulary (Learn from “Word power made easy by Norman Lewis” each day)
  3. Learn to read, speak and write Korean

And that’s it! These are not extensive goals and also easily achievable with a little bit of dedication.

Looking forward to an exciting July!!!!!!

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