Getting out of my comfort zone

It was my first day at my new job today. This place is everything I wanted my dream job to be like. Extremely knowledgeable people, great office environment, fixed timings, great brand, yet, I feel weird.

There is this intense feeling of discomfort that is plaguing my mind. I just can’t come to terms with the fact that opportunities lie outside the comfort zone. In my previous organisation, I knew everything and everyone, everything and everyone knew me. I didn’t like the people there nor the office timings, yet, I want to go back and hide myself there.

What is wrong? Why do I feel so uncomfortable at a place that feels so right! Well, that’s the cost to pay when you venture out of your comfort zone. The comfort zone is a place which protects you from any kind of fear. New places brings with it unknown situations, uncomfortable meetings, it tests your knowledge and your ability to deal with new surroundings. All this ain’t pretty. Especially, for an introvert like me. Introverts like to conserve as much energy as possible. They lose energy and hope as soon as they have to encounter a new situation.

It’s time to be more positive and embrace my reality. Living my life one day at a time might help. I either live in the past or find myself dreaming about the future. Present is never an option for me.

Embracing every moment of the present situation will help me recuperate and that’s what I am going to do. It was my decision to move out of the situation I was in and upgrade my life. Now, I need to be more mature and responsible about my decisions. Happiness is a continuous process. You cannot wait for it to find it’s way to you. Happiness sometimes requires effort. Your mind needs to free and clutter free in order to create a nurturing house for it to stay in for a long time.

While I go back to my reality, I urge you all to give the uncomfortable situation you are currently facing, another chance. Just remember, this feeling too shall pass. It is just an illusion created by your mind to protect you from prospective fearful situations. And believe me, you are stronger than that! So, fight the FEAR.!

When the going gets tough…

Have you ever felt extreme hatred, negativity, dislike, distraught for a situation you are stuck in and can go to any lengths to get yourself out of it? Every single day you try your level best to stay positive and hope against hope to cling to that one good thought which brings you happiness and glimmer for the future. You turn on social media and are bombarded with your friend’s/colleague’s/acquaintance’s success stories, milestones and life changing events. You are happy for them as it strengthens your belief in dreams coming true although you cannot help but question the Universe; “When is my turn?”

I’ve read a lot of posts which says “Life is not in the past or future, it’s NOW!” If you feel unhappy in a situation it’s a massive sign yelling at you to get out of that condition A.S.A.P. However, the timeframe between realising that you are in an unwanted situation and getting out of it cannot be fixed to suit your needs. When you are in that limbo, you have to deal with a lot of stress, discomfort and our best enemy “Negativity!” You cannot just snap out of that limbo, it takes every last bit of your strength to deal with it. Yes, the end will be beautiful and worth all the pain you sustained, however, to reach there you need to stay put and have firm belief in your dreams and most importantly ‘yourself’!

Every single day begins with a positive thought to float through your entire life and then “life happens!”. The day throws innumerable problems, painful situations, puzzles, issues and what not! One by one you try to solve every thing that comes your way with the single most important belief in your mind, “It’s not going to last forever!”. You wish to go back to the days when you were carefree and didn’t know the meaning of “responsibility!”. Why is every situation dealt in a burdensome manner? Why has it become so difficult to stay happy? Why is happiness a thing you chase rather than a destination? What is it that I can do to get out of this limbo soon?

As I don’t know the timeframe of my limbo, I try to find various ways to help me deal with it and stay positive throughout. I’ve been reading Dr. Susan Jeffers “Feel the fear and do it anyway” which by far has been most effective in helping me stay afloat. The best takeaway from this book has been the simple affirmation “I’ll handle it”. Think about it! You always feel anxious, unhappy, upset, dejected when you believe that you are in a situation which you are unable to handle. It’s the fear of non-performance that scares you and not the outcome. If you trick yourself into believing that you CAN handle everything that comes your way, you get instantly energised and can see a way ahead even if it’s foggy. It’s all about perspective and not the problem that you are dealing with. Another great read has been “Who moved my cheese?” by Spencer Johnson. This one is a light read with great message. A question in this book made me question my entire decision making process, “What would you do if you weren’t afraid?” Isn’t it a question to dwell on?

As of now, I’ll continue to fight hard, against all the brick backs that life throws at me! I know it’s difficult to sustain but the end is very beautiful and I can feel it. Whatever the situation is, I’ll handle it! I’m eternally grateful to all the positivity out there that strengthens my dreams. Waiting to cross this bridge and jump into the limbo-free zone soon.!

“When the going get’s tough, the tough get going….!!!

Ciao!