Life goes on

“Life goes on, let’s live on”

-BTS

My mental health was in shambles right before BTS’s last release “Dynamite” on August 21st this year. I remember having listened to the song on loop for hours on end during my bus travel to and fro from office as it was one of the very few things that gave me comfort during that time. The song felt like a tight hug and helped pick the broken pieces of my soul together to heal it. Exactly 3 months later, I’m not feeling my best self again. I had vowed last time when I felt disoriented to keep finding happiness in the small things that make up life and focus on keeping myself sane. Currently, I’m struggling to consistently do it yet fighting hard against the demons of my mind to not give up.

Right when I need it, BTS have dropped their new album “BE” today. I’m in office again, away from social media as I wait to get back home and watch the music video with my sister. I don’t have to go through an excruciatingly long bus ride this time, my travel time has eased up. I’m extremely excited to listen to the song, I’m sure it’s exactly what I need at the moment to get back on track. BTS’s existence in my life and listening to their songs have unfailingly been a rock solid source of my happiness. You can imagine from this description how special each one of their album comebacks is. I’m glad BTS have come at the right time as my knights in shining armour to save me from falling into the dark hole of negativity.

Less than 3 hrs to go for me to reach home and I can’t contain my excitement. I’m sure all of us must have that one thing that acts as their constant source of happiness. Hold it tight and keep coming back to it to keep the negative emotions at bay. For all the BTS armies out there, a new era has begun!

Venturing out of your comfort zone

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“By leaving your comfort zone behind and taking a leap of faith into something new, you find out who you are truly capable of becoming.” 

-Anonymous

Comfort zone for me is similar to that cozy little corner of my home where I practically live in. While out of my comfort zone, the only thing I do is strive hard to crawl back into it. I remember when I had joined my current workplace, the first 3 months were absolutely horrible. I had no friends, ate lunch alone, counted every millisecond till the end of the day and just prayed that the weekends would never end. My life got better after I made a friend there and had someone to talk to everyday.

So what’s the deal with venturing out of our comfort zone? It’s so scary, boring and noticeably uncomfortable. As humans we hate the feeling of being uncomfortable with anything. We like to be prepared and aware of our surroundings. Surprises are welcome only with birthday gifts or holidays, any other kind would rather shock us than be pleasant. Also man is a social animal, as repeatedly taught to us in school. Being solo is best reserved for trips. I haven’t come across a single person who would prefer living under isolation their entire life. So every new venture or event forces us to leave our known environment and deal with uncomfortable interactions, awkward silences and negative mind chatter.

That makes the comfort zone a gold mine, why would any one in their right mind venture out of it? The answer is “growth“. Growth in our thoughts, behavior, actions and personality. In the first 3 extremely awkward and boring months of my current workplace, I forced myself to initiate conversations with random colleagues in my department just to have people to talk to. Now this was a huge deal for the shy, introverted person like me. I had barely anyone to talk to in office and no one in my team, this was my last resort to kill the 9 excruciatingly boring hours in my office. Turns out, now I can easily talk to strangers (barring the slight inertia and anxiety in the beginning which I guess is unavoidable). I engaged in conversations with like minded people and found out about the amazing weight loss transformation and fitness journey of one of my colleagues. Her success story motivated me daily to work hard on my own weight loss journey. My weight loss journey has been the source of my current level of confidence and happiness in life. It also helped me deal with my anxiety and low self esteem issues.

Though it’s a difficult task, stepping out of our comfort zone is the best way to fulfill all the goals we’ve set for yourself and the key to changing our life for the better. Let’s get it!