Becoming receptive

“And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.”

Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist

I had read “The Secret” long back in 2008 after it was suggested to me by my class teacher. I read the book randomly without understanding a word in it. However, my sister was very intrigued by the book and spent days and weeks on the internet to find out all the related concepts discussed in the book. It was the first time in my life that I came across the concept of “Law of Attraction” and absolutely rubbished the claim. The book literally said that “Treat the Universe like a genie, ask your wishes, truly believe that you will receive it, act has if you have already received it and voila, your wishes will come true!” How was I supposed to believe in something as vague as that? Also my life was pretty uncomplicated during those days, I was always full of hope and positivity and truly believed that I had control over my life and future.

As I grew up and started experiencing failures and setbacks in life, I realized that life wasn’t as straight forward as I thought. We don’t get everything we dream of, things don’t always work out in our favor, sometimes we get rejections even after trying our best and many a times we keep waiting for better days to come. I turned to “The Secret” again during my C.A. final exam days in the year 2012, when I was in stress 24*7 and it helped me immensely during that time. It helped restore my faith and hope in the Universe, it made me forget about my negative feelings and focus on the bright side of every situation.

It’s been more than 9 years to the last time I believed in the power of “The Law of Attraction“. I let life take control of my destiny and stopped believing that I too have the power to rewrite my future. I know it might sound way too nonsensical to many of you at the moment but the only reason I am trying to get back to believing in the power of the Universe is because it had helped me immensely in the past.

Lately I have noticed few instances in my life where I got a glimpse of few things I have desired since long, only to be taken back from me. This applies to my job search and a fitness watch that has been on my wish list since forever. It felt like my prayers were answered finally by handing me these desires only to be snatched away from me at the last moment. As soon as I realize that there’s even a slightest chance for my life to change, I start overthinking all of my life’s decisions and start questioning if I really need those things in my life. I have never felt this confused ever in my life before. My thoughts aren’t clear, I don’t know what I truly want and any change in my life is only triggering a sense of fear instead of excitement or wonder. This should certainly not be the case.

While researching about this phenomena, I stumbled upon an amazing article by Rose Stein (https://thoughtcatalog.com/rose-stein/2016/04/this-is-how-you-should-open-yourself-up-to-the-universe/). Do give it a read, it is precise and just what a confused soul is seeking. For people who feel confused and stuck in life, she has suggested 5 guiding ideals that’ll help clear our thought process and make us receptive to the Universe and it’s infinite possibilities.

  • Trust
  • Openness
  • Gratitude
  • Acceptance
  • Intention

I really wish to get more clarity in my life and this article gives me hope. I have decided to delve deep into the practice of gratitude journaling, setting a powerful intention, deeply believing in the power of the Universe, opening myself up to the abundance and most importantly accepting my current situation instead of running away from it.

I choose to be receptive and will work hard to clear the unnecessary blocks in my mind.

Curtain call

“It is never too late to be what you might have been.”

-George Eliot

As this extraordinary year 2020 draws to an end, I am reminded of the uncertainties as well as opportunities showered on us this year. The other day, my colleague called 2020, “a year of self discovery” and I couldn’t agree more. While I am aware of the pain and turbulence caused by this year, I might be one of the few people who is extremely thankful for the existence of 2020.

Before Covid-19 hit my country and a nationwide lockdown was announced in India, my life was pretty much the same. I woke up every weekday, squeezed myself in a local train, spent my time doing work that I absolutely despised in office, came back home, wasted my time on the internet and repeat. The only thing I looked forward to during those times were my runs and any impending running events that I registered myself to. The lockdown brought with it a halt in the mundane daily routine and blessed me with a lot of time on hand. I had never spent such a long time at home before that. Ever since I was in school, I have been running hither and thither throughout the day, each day, for some work or the other. This year, in 2020, I spent close to 3 months at home, with my family, with my thoughts, doing nothing, relaxing and rejuvenating. It was blissful.

I was depressed, disoriented, lacked passion and purpose in my life before the Covid-19 lockdown. The lockdown made me realize the importance of my existence and all the amazing blessings I have in my life. I try my level best not to take my life for granted. I try to find happiness in the small things that make up life. I try to give my 100% in everything I do in life now. This is how 2020 has helped evolve my thoughts and actions. I am eternally grateful for this year as it gave me the much needed break that I had been desperately seeking ever since I started working.

I have planned to blog every single day till 31st December to document my emotions till the end of the most special year of my life. I want to usher in the new year with a clear mind, positivity and unending self love. I aim to create a wish list for the next year, a detailed one, with a rock solid will to achieve every single goal I set for myself going ahead. I want to transform into the person my childhood self would be proud off. I am proud of myself now but I truly wish to challenge my skills, willpower and determination to become the best version of myself. LET’S DO THIS!

An achiever

#73/100

“Success in life is not for those who run fast, but for those who keep running and always on the move.”

Bangambiki Habyarimana

I was watching a clip of Priyanka Chopra Jonas’s new book launch promo today and she said something that instantly struck a chord with me. She wants to be a person who sets goals and achieves them. The second part of this sentence is what differentiates it from any other motivational pep talk. We are always taught to chase dreams, our goals and made to feel bad if we don’t achieve them. But we are never pushed to finish what we start. Having goals is great, but it makes no difference to your life if you don’t put consistent efforts on it. Like anything in life, there will be failures and setbacks. That’s when 99% of the crowd backs out. The 1% who continue, end up realizing their goals or learn enough skills to chase a different one.

Instead of being a person who sets big goals, I want to be a person who lives up to my word, no matter what. I have envisioned a dream life for myself, yet I delay working on it every single day. Rest is great, watching movies and shows are blissful, but they’ll seem much more sweeter and victorious if earned as a reward on achieving your goals.

Instead of a ‘doer’ mindset, I have adopted an ‘achiever’ mindset in life now. The difference between the two is the consistency of efforts for any task or goal in life. A doer always has ample time to complete their work, probably till the end of their life. An achiever, well, they are focused on achieving their targets in minimal time. After all, their main goal is to complete what’s started.

Let’s push ourselves harder and break the self imposed restrictions set by our mind. As we all know, we are much stronger than we think!

How these 4 little changes in life are helping manage my time better!

Time is what we want most, but what we use worst – William Penn

Being a chronic procrastinator, I’ve always found myself running out of time, for no specific reason whatsoever. From reaching appointments late to sprinting like a marathon runner to catch my morning train at the last moment, I’ve done it all. However, my tardiness got the better of me last month when we missed my sister’s flight. I couldn’t handle the situation at all as this was the third time we had missed a flight. At that very moment, I decided to change, for the better!

The methods that I’m listing below are not foolproof or devised after years of research. These are the methods that has helped me, a chronic procrastinator, to value time and use it well.

  • WRITE DOWN ALL THE TASKS AT HAND

I’ve always been a fan of preparing meticulous timetables with fixed time slots for specific tasks. These timetables have unfortunately never worked for me. Setting time limitations forces you to work haphazardly. Also, the disappointment of not completing tasks in decided time slot wrecks the entire schedule.

What I did : I’ve started writing down everything I need to do in a day first thing in the morning. This is the habit that I’ve developed at office to remember everything that I require to complete on a single day. I try to make this list as elaborate as possible, listing down all then small things that I need to do that day. This little change has worked magically for me to realize the amount and importance of tasks at hand and work accordingly. Also, the pleasure of striking off a task on completion is unimaginable!

Result : I now have a clear schedule of the number of tasks at hand and plan my day accordingly. This has also helped me to cut down on tasks that I may tend to forget.

  • WILLPOWER

This might seem like a vague idea to implement. However, this is the single most important thing that can help in better utilization of your time. Everything boils down to one fact, desire to complete the task at hand. If you can find the reason why you want to accomplish a certain task, believe me, you’ll find a way and time to manage it. Before starting any task, find one reason that made you do it in the first place.

What I didMy Super list has given me a clear reason to achieve certain long term goals. For all the other mundane routine work, I try to time it and complete it in much lesser time on the next occasion.

Result : I can prioritize my tasks well and complete them in the order of importance.

  • SET CLEAR REWARDS

This is the fun element to complete your work. Usually, our mind wanders or we delay the work at hand when it gets boring. What you can do is set a reward for completion of any work. The reward can be as simple as taking a break to buying that thing from Amazon which you’ve been eyeing since a long time. Successful completion of your task will help you enjoy the reward better.

What I did : The rewards set by me give me motivation to finish any task. I’m prone to taking a lot of breaks or indulge in long periods of doing absolutely nothing. Now, I’ve set these as my rewards which helps me complete my work as well as enjoy guilt-free breaks!

Result : Work is always fun when you have a reward waiting at the end.

  • BELIEF

In officer Judy Hopps’s words, “Zootopia : Where anyone can be anything!” Now imagine your entire life to be Zootopia, this gives you the power to do and be anything you want. Always have a firm belief that you can accomplish any task at hand. From belief comes confidence, from confidence comes success! This realization is for those big dreams in your eyes. For all other work, the above three changes should suffice.

What I did : I’ve read somewhere that negative thoughts are the weakest when they first arrive. Whenever I’m apprehensive about certain work and have negative thoughts about it, I counter attack it with a positive thought.  They usually don’t return.

Result : I can cut down on delaying any task for the fear of not being able to complete them well. Attempting something has already given you an edge over those who are yet to begin or think they can’t do it. Life is a compilation of experiences!

Hope these methods help you in some manner to achieve your goals.

Ciao!